Feeling comfortable in my own skin has been a long process for me.
I was always tall for my age – strong and athletic instead of “skinny” and delicate. I loved the sparkly things in life while at the same time was happy getting muddy or jumping into athletics with the guys.
Even though the prospect of digging for worms or hunting for frogs to sell at our family bait shop excited me, a different vision of wonderfully made filled my head. Instead of adventurous, strong, and independent, I longed to represent the damsel in distress. Somehow, it seemed far more beautiful. (Remember, this was a different time and place in our world!)
I longed to be a size 2 like many of my friends. Not wanting to tower over the other girls, I just wanted to be the same as them.
I didn’t get that I was a miracle and wonderfully made.
Today, the world is a different place. By all appearances, girls are applauded for their individuality. We see athletic and plus size models rocking the stages and screens. Yet, I wonder, are the affirmations reaching below the surface to the souls of our girls today?
My time in ministry has given me the chance to sit across from lots of young women. And then today I find myself getting another glimpse – one that comes through the lenses of my teenage boys.
And here’s the sad thing.
For all the progress our world has made in terms of women’s rights, our girls soul-level knowledge of how wonderfully made they are is still far too often void. Women still fail to see their worth.
So, where are we getting it wrong as a society? With all the awareness, all the fight, and all the efforts to bring equality to the forefront, why are our young women desperate to feel as though they are enough?
As a woman who has battled this very concept, I know where society went wrong. And I know we can’t solve this kind of thing with awareness and fight alone. It’s deeper than that.
Long before time, God wrote our names in the Book of Life. He created us uniquely in His image. And He took the time to tell us in His Word that we are wonderfully made.
“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” –Psalm 139:14 NIV
In order to understand our value, we must understand our Creator. It is then, when we understand and know our Creator, that we gain a new lens through which we can see ourselves. The images on social media lose their power over us and we begin to feel far more comfortable in our own skin.
Distraction is one of the enemy’s favorite tricks. He distracts us from the truth because He knows it weakens our armor and puts distance between us and God.
The world with all its brokenness and pain pulls us away from the truth of how lovely we really are. We forget that God doesn’t do anything accidentally which means we weren’t created by accident. Our height, size, features – all placed for purpose and all called beautiful.
I know the sin of this world has tried valiantly to knock you down. Social media, Hollywood, and everything glitzy tells us what beautiful is. It is relentless in its pressure.
Broken people hurt you and evil finds a way to claw at your resolve. But, sweet sister, you aren’t going to let evil win. You are going to kick the enemy to the curb.
I’ve written at length about several things we can do to fully learn about God’s love and our worth as a child of His. My heart has been to equip you with strategies like:
I’ve created things like an email course I call Longing for More than the World’s Reflection, an online Identity Factor quiz, and a whole series featuring stories from other brave women who have learned how wonderfully made they are.
I pray today is a new day for you. I pray it marks the day you begin a new journey. One toward grasping the wonder of you!
I’ve come a long way in the journey to feeling comfortable in my own skin.
Although it’s a battle for which I must suit up in armor each day, I’ve come to a point where I have enough God-fidence to get in front of the camera to share these cute jeans from Laurie Felt with you! (Not to mention my word this year is laughter – so that means having a little fun 🙂 !)
We know that life has many ups and downs, and that each moment is a gift. We are a community created for, and by women, to connect with and learn from each other, as we all have something to share – and something to discover. We shine light on glamorous, everyday women with beautiful stories that can help us grow and discover new perspectives. And most importantly, we uplift each other — because when we feel connected, supported and inspired — we are truly unstoppable.
Because of what this company is working to build, I easily decided to partner with them in a campaign.
They even offer an online community of encouragement for women through the Heartfelt by Laurie Felt Facebook Group!
Graciously, they sent me a pair of jeans of my choosing in exchange for an honest review. And guess what! I loved them! They easily fit into the spirit of wonderfully made! Super comfortable, I can wear them sitting around writing (like right now) or in the stands watching my son play basketball.
The embroidery drew my attention and determined my choice. How fun it was to see they were stitched well and therefore washed without incidence!
If you are looking for a new brand name in jeans – one that reflects your unique self and is made exceptionally well – I recommend checking out a pair of Laurie Felt Jeans!